I've been persuaded - about 90% persuaded. There's still a lingering problem. The rest of the STR staff who watches "24" did not think Jack's conversation with Renee Walker indicated Jack is a moral relativist. They argued that the conversation had to be understood in the entire context of the show, and Jack had given indications in the past that he believe what he was doing was objectively right. I think they're right about taking the conversation in the larger context, but I still thought there were enough problems in what Jack counseled Renee that I wasn't convinced - until Derek gave me this way of understanding the conversation, and after pondering it for several days, I think it's the best way to understand Jack's comments.
Romans 14:1-12 is the way Derek persuaded me. Here's verse 5: "One person esteems one day as better than another, while another esteems all days alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind." Jack wasn't counseling Renee on what was right or wrong, that was assumed given the larger context of the show. In specific circumstances, in very narrow situations that "24" revolves around, extreme measures are just and right. (I won't cover this well-tread ground here.) He was counseling her on how she should apply that moral circumstance, whether she should take up this duty and responsibility that Jack has that calls for tremendous personal sacrifice. She should not rush into this, but consider it carefully and be convinced in her own mind that she needs to do it, not only that it has to be done. This is what Jack has been persuaded of.
Jack told her "I can't tell you what to do" because each person has to make up their own mind - not whether it's right or wrong, but whether they should do it. Renee has taken a particular oath as an FBI agent, and this would require her to rescind that oath and, I would presume, terminate her association with the FBI. I think Jack is giving her counsel to consider the ramifications of making this decision. He said you find yourself "running in the wrong direction." I think he might have been saying, not that the action is wrong, but that this is a very difficult and nuanced business and it's easy to take the wrong turn. Look at Tony as that example.
Jack said he decided he couldn't live with himself unless he acted. He wasn't saying he decided for himself what was moral and she should decide for herself what was moral. Rather, he was saying he decided he was persuaded in his own mind that his was something he had to do. Renee has to be persuaded in her own mind, otherwise it'll be wrong for her. The principle in Romans 14 - simply because something is okay doesn't mean it's okay for me to do - doesn't lead to moral relativism because the inverse is not true - if you decide it's okay for you then it's okay. The presumption in the passage is that the thing in question is already determined to be morally permissible, and I think now that that was the presumption in Jack's counsel to Renee.
Here's the one piece of the conversation that doesn't quite fit this interpretation, and why I'm only 90% persuaded. The first thing Renee asks Jack is about using any means necessary to get information from their prisoner, but the circumstances that could justify this do not obtain. There is no immediate threat that precludes the time to take the normal legal route. Jack's answer should have been, "Are you crazy? Have you learned nothing today? That would be wrong now." Instead, he begins by saying he can't tell her what to do. He should have easily told her what to do in that circumstances because the moral circumstance was already clear and could not be justified for anyone. But the rest of the conversation does make more sense on this interpretation given the history of the show.
But the conversation with the Imam is still dumb, I think, primarily because an Imam would never tell Jack to "forgive yourself." Change the cleric or change the counsel, but to wait all this time for Jack to seek spiritual help and this was it was very disappointing.