Justin Taylor posted today about a new book that seems to strike just the right message and tone in answer to this question. The book is by Sam Allberry called Is God anti-gay? Make sure you watch the video to get the gist of Sam's message - and his attitude. He says that his identity isn't defined by his same-sex attraction, but by being a child of God. And as a Christian, he seeks to live in obedience to God's Word. He also encourages Christians and churches to strike an open posture toward those who struggle with same-sex attraction so they can receive encouragement from the Body of Christ to live as Jesus' disciples. This seems to be an appropriate balance of love and truth.